August 3, 2005
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**Married people only**
Living together doesn't include either coz it's totally different than
actually being married. Trust me! Besides..my question would be: do
you become another person after you got married? Are there things you
used to do & don't do anymore after you tied the knot? It could start with the simple things like doing someone else's laundry or washing dishes for 2 (did I say "simple"
)
or closing the closet's door or turning off the bathroom light becoz
those kind of things seem to be constantly slipping out of your
spouse's minds (read: HUSBANDS!!!
). Ooooooooooor......stop going clubbing every friday nights, gossiping
with your girl friends over many cups of coffee & cheesecakes,
staying up late & peacefully watching chicks movies, last but not
least: restraining yourself from having flirtatious phone calls, SMS
& e-mails with....not your husband!What tickles me is this, do
you willingly do all those things for the sake of your love or is it
because you expect your spouse to do the same thing to you? Becoz if it's love, then I have no further comments. But if it's becoz you have certain expectations then...I don't know...Tell me straight, would your spouse really do the same things for you that you do for him/her? Would
he/she stop asking you where you have lunch everday or when you'll be
home just becoz you don't ask him/her the same question? Would he/she
calls becoz you call him/her? Would he/she stop "just being too nice"
to his/her women/men friends just becoz you think to respect your
spouse you set a certain distant to your friends? Would he/she tries to
have more patience with you just becoz you try to be more patient to
him/her?I don't think so. Out of my 29 years of life I've learned that you can't expect anything from anybody anymore.
Becoz if you do & things don't turn out as expected, you'll feel like
you've been lifted up to 7th heaven & thrown down with a high speed
rocket on your back. Don't want to sound so cynical but I think we
should do what we think it's right for ourselves & nobody elses. If
you feel good after doing some good, then so be it. Just don't expect
others to be as good to you coz in this world you'd never know what
kind of people you'll meet. Well, even if you do
change a lot of things in your life, think of it as for the best. You
do want to work it out with your spouses, right?
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